By: Gabriela Yareliz
The Lively vs. Baldoni lawsuit/case in the court of the public opinion is heating up. Most of us following are glued to the updates from Candace Owens who now has sources one the inside revealing the story. She has about 95% of it, according to one insider.
The story has revealed that something tipped off Blake Lively’s husband, Ryan Reynolds, into a spiral of jealousy and desire to control the situation, humiliate Blake Lively and destroy Justin Baldoni. Seems like the story is Blake “caught feelings” on set for her co-star Baldoni, and her husband went on a rampage and started supervising her. This always ends badly— does anyone remember Sofia Vergara with Joe Manganiello? Eeeh.
If you want to start at the beginning, you can start with HouseinHabit’s recap of the initial Candace Owens findings— for the rest— check out Candace Owens on socials. She has even found moments on film from the promotion of the film that had nothing to do with promo but are instead just unscripted concerning rage rants. Justin Baldoni’s court filings are public record, so you can read that, too.
It’s weird to see a man spiraling and destroying his marriage and career on the national stage. But while it’s weird because these are wealthy celebrities we hold distance from, we see this all the time in regular life. People who need to control everything and spiral when the unexpected happens. People who think controlling and manipulating is love. (And it’s not). There are many Ryan Reynolds out in the world.
I think in the past, to start a divorce was so frowned upon and judged. Yet now, we realize many likely did it to save sanity and dignity. Seems Scarlett Johansson was judged harshly when she divorced Ryan Reynolds, but now she is looking like a woman who saved herself and ran from a psychopath. Johnny Depp had a long road to freedom in the eyes of the public, narrowly escaping his own abusive marriage. I don’t know if the Reynolds will divorce, but it is looking bleak.
This mess of a situation brought me back to this Tara Schuster passage I resonated a lot with:
“It takes a confident person to love fully. (…) The way a person treats you has almost nothing to do with you. It’s about them and their limitations.” Tara Schuster
I don’t know what will happen here. We are all watching. And with celebrities, we can watch them for life lessons (not purely for gossip). This is what Shallon Lester on YouTube has dedicated herself to.
I have never really liked the Lively-Reynolds duo, personally (doesn’t matter if I did, but simply not a fan). The fact that she is close friends with Taylor Swift makes her wildly unlikable to me. At first, I just felt like Baldoni was wronged, and now I am starting to feel for Blake, if in fact her husband went nuts on her. It does seem like she is in an abusive situation, and she will need to make some decisions.
I think one of the biggest lessons we can take with love, given that relationships involve a whole other person that you cannot control (contrary to what Ryan Reynolds thinks), is to live with open hands. Ultimately, people are free. You cannot control another. Control is not love.
And on the flip side, if you are in a bad situation, the most loving thing you can do is take yourself out of the abuse. Be confident enough to know that you can’t fix the person or the situation, and rescue yourself.
To love is to risk loss. And this fact will never change.
GABRIELA YARELIZ 