
“Cézanne painted the same mountain because he wasn’t done seeing it. You are allowed to circle something until it opens.” Rainier Wylde
Circle as long as you need to.
Expect miracles.

“Cézanne painted the same mountain because he wasn’t done seeing it. You are allowed to circle something until it opens.” Rainier Wylde
Circle as long as you need to.
By: Gabriela Yareliz
I will never forget a funny friend who told me proudly that he had seen a Puerto Rican artist’s music video. “The one with the women in the bikinis dancing,” he told me. “You are going to have to narrow it down,” I told him. “That is basically every music video.”
I had an internal cringe in that moment. This is how I felt about last night’s halftime.
Leading up to last night, we all heard a lot of commentary about the Bad Bunny halftime show. I was at a law firm event from hell (more on that later), where I heard some women saying they didn’t understand why a non-American was chosen to perform. I laughed with snippy cynicism and showed restraint.
The commentary around it being in Spanish didn’t bother me. Listen, these past few years, the halftime show feels about as matched to the audience as the new Cracker Barrel CEO to the brand. I don’t think the entertainment is well-matched to this specific sport’s audience. You can argue otherwise. If this was the World Cup halftime, I would feel it more on brand— but whatever. This wouldn’t be the first or last year where the show and spectacle turns off viewers. That was not a matter of concern to me. It was just part of a decade long pattern.
I think the part that disappoints me is that this is what people equate to my culture, which is rich and hard working and beyond what was on display. I have little respect for women twerking and literally showing ass (for lack of a better way to put it) and saying that their feminism is found in twerking alone (yo perreo sola), in touching themselves and promiscuity. I am not into lyrics about a man with many women or where he has placed his penis lately.
It is weird to me that we take the most toxic elements of our culture (they are not relationally healthy; they actually damage families and self-dignity), and we celebrate them as if they are liberation.
It is wild to me that women in my culture (I see them on socials) who say they hate men and show 90% of the skin on their body praise this when it’s the exact thing they claim they despise in their delusional brand of feminism.
A Hispanic or Latin man that I have admiration for— someone like Erwin McManus. A man of one wife, a writer, philosopher and futurist. A man who teaches the world to think and seek the eternal. A man who uplifts women and surrounds himself with them (fully clothed). That is a man worth celebrating and admiring.
Our culture can have class. It doesn’t have to be ghetto or urban or caserio music because not all of us act like we are from the projects. For those of us in professional fields, the spectacle last night doesn’t help elevate us or get us respect from those around us. This is about as helpful as mob culture was to Italians. I am more than just a sexual object. I like to think I actually have a brain, and it’s more interesting than my breasts— I promise.
It’s a show I wanted to be proud of but couldn’t be. A lot of important messages were drowned out by the debaucherous party.
It has its audience; I am not it. Yo no perreo.
“Whatever you’re doing, do it well. If you’re writing a thank you note, take an extra minute to mention something beyond the typical thank you. If you’re exercising, do each set as well as you can. If you’re in conversation, really listen and don’t just wait for your turn to talk.
Having high standards adds up. You can nearly always find an extra minute to do it better. And most important, you prove to yourself that you’re the type of person who does things well.” James Clear
Do the thing well.
01. Pyro Fitness
“Your habits are the silent architects of your life.” Kirsty Godso’s mantra

02. THIS TEA!!
Tried this tea by Natazia zu Stolberg, and I am obsessed with it. Smells like cumin but tastes like a warm hug.

03. Podcast of the Week
This podcast with Emma Grede and Simon Sinek. Their conversation about leadership is important. Leadership is a topic I am obsessed with. I am always down to talk about it.
04. Quote About Courage
“ENTHUSIASM
IS A FORM OF COURAGE.”
Rainier Wylde
05. The Overflowing Florida Penalty Boxes, and Paul Maurice Stormed Off into the Tunnel

The Florida Panthers fought the Tampa Bay Lightning, and apparently, PoMo was ejected from the game. An icon. Not a single other soul fit in those penalty boxes. My favorite part of a hockey game— a penalty that was worth it.
From Tracy Anderson’s newest publication, Atlas:
“I hope you connect to your past.
I hope you see your stories.
I hope you dream forward.”
TRACY ANDERSON
“What is magic? Magic isn’t what you see, it’s what you don’t see.” Tim Grover in conversation with Andy Frisella
By: Gabriela Yareliz
Trains are sort of running. There is a guy standing near me downing a Celsius, and it’s not even 8:15 am. What we see about someone can tell us a lot. This is why presentation matters. But as Tim Grover says, the magic is found in what we don’t see.
It’s found in the time spent taking care of your body; time present; time reading; time researching; time writing; time praying; time working when others are being lazy. What matters more and what impacts what’s seen the most is what is not seen.
The magic behind success and dreams come true is the stuff most people don’t see and will never see. What are you doing in the magic hours when no one sees you?
If you haven’t listened— check out Tim Grover x Andy Frisella. If you don’t know Tim Grover (see Michael Jordan), you are in for a treat. (His books are some of my all-time favorites).
“Civilization’s enduring commandment became: Do more. Try harder. Be better. Earn what was already yours in the first place–aliveness.” Rainier Wylde

By: Gabriela Yareliz
The quote above reminds me of Mary Oliver’s Wild Geese— “You do not have to be good; you do not have to walk on your knees.” There was a hilarious St. Denis Medical episode (s 1, ep 14) where Dr. Bruce listens to a dementia patient repeating this one line. He goes into this spiral about whether or not he has to be great.
I hope that no matter how your day started or how it is ending, that you do something today that makes you feel alive. Human. Grounded. Something that acknowledges the present as enough for right now.
Massage your feet. Drink some tea. Stretch out your lower back. Take a hot shower. Eat a chocolate. Find delight in a page. Be.
I often find that when I strive to do more than is feasible, I end up feeling like a machine.
We don’t need machines. We have those. We need more humans. We need people who are ALIVE.
“So we can stay small, fragile, and insignificant. But femininity isn’t any of those things. It’s loud, inconvenient, and strong AF.” Dr. Stephanie Estima
By: Gabriela Yareliz
For months, I have been looking closely at fitness, wellness and where I want to go. Carefully weighing what trainers and platforms I want to invest in and looking at years of certain types of exercise. It’s been ten years of Pilates mixed in with other low-impact movements. These past two months, I have been trying something new and out of my comfort zone.
When I saw the Dr. Estima quote above in the middle of her larger newsletter, it really resonated with me. So much of the world (including wellness) works to keep women small. And I don’t think we are better for it.
More recent influential voices are encouraging women into strength, space and ferocity.
Things that have stayed with me over time:
-We need to lift progressively.
-All workouts shouldn’t be done lying down on a mat.
-Mobility is key to aging well.
-There should be some sort of acceleration for the heart and impact for the bones.
-Variety doesn’t work as well as repetition.
-Rest is integral to growth (for muscles and generally).
-Something is better than nothing.
-Glute strength is very important.
This year, I was excited to complete the Pvolve New Year’s Challenge. It has pumped me up to continue and ramp up the sweat and effort. This year, I am surrendering the small. It’s ok to be inconvenient— inconveniently strong.
“China tea, the scent of hyacinths, wood fires and bowls of violets— that is my mental picture of an agreeable February afternoon.”
-Constance Spry (1886-1960) [From my February reading of Simple Abundance by Sarah Ban Breathnach]
By: Gabriela Yareliz
January ended chaotically. Do you feel it?
Some Mickey Mouse (Latin code for “rinky-dink”) Epstein files were released. Thomas Massie is still ready to ride at dawn. Respect.
Peter Attia was corresponding with Jeffrey Epstein. All that is out. Silence from the Attia end, but there was always something off about this guy when we heard him on podcasts. A weird arrogance that made this land softly. Checks out.

Nick Shirley is in California. More to come from that, I am sure.
We sadly lost Catherine O’Hara.
The New York Rangers continued to lose.

Danielle Bernstein of WeWoreWhat called off her engagement. We wish her well. It all felt very overnight. She was building her joint home with this guy, releasing awesome bridal outfits and cute V-day stuff, and then, Page Six broke the news. The eye procedure should have been a sign that the wedding was not happening. Apparently, the issue was his refusal to sign a prenup. Wishing them both well. Regardless of the reason, I do think we need to normalize calling off weddings. Women get a lot of bs for this (and it is a very painful decision), and more often than not (whether permanent or temporary due to timing), it’s the right decision.
People are canceling their Amazon Prime, ChatGPT and Uber subscriptions/apps and tagging Prof. Scott Galloway (mostly West Coast is leading the boycott. Most East Coast folks are like hell no. Midwest has Walmart and continues to thrive). I give this one month— like the subscriptions won’t even lapse, so big tech won’t feel a thing. It will be done for the screenshot only. If there is anything I learned from a recent episode of Shark Tank it’s that people pay big bucks for convenience. I don’t see Americans giving up convenience and comfort any time soon. We’ll see. Time will tell.
February is off to a spicy start. It’s like we entered the month flipping tables. We haven’t even gotten to the point where the horse is dragging us. That race hasn’t even started. We are still in the year of the snake. And boy is there a lot of shedding happening.
I was reading Brianna Wiest this morning, and I liked this note: “Eventually, you will have to stop pouring yourself into the things that will give nothing back, that take without any intent to give.”
It’s true, for relationships, jobs, and life, generally. What are you releasing as we enter the month?

I saw a recent photo of Danielle Bernstein sitting on a fire escape, captioned, “nyc’s version of touching grass.” A new month begins, and the rollercoaster continues.
Let’s go touch some grass. Something tells me we are in for a wild ride, and grounding is a good first step.