This Week’s Favorites 07.11.26

By: Gabriela Yareliz

I eventually made it home from Nashville. I took a flight from hell with little-to-no AC again (JetBlue), trapped in a seat with parents who had zero control over their children. (And these were not babies— we understand babies). The mom kept shrieking next to me, “MOMMY IS DOING HER BESTTTTT!” I assume that was a message for the entire small plane of people who just wanted to jump out of the emergency exit.

Meanwhile, her little boy kept kicking her in the face. A Hispanic mother would never allow this. This kid would have been getting his ass kicked in the airplane bathroom after the first half attempt to defy. But this white lady with artsy tattoos was melting under pressure. I was about to slap her and tell her to get it together.

Me the entire flight.

Appreciate everyone who read the Nashville chronicles and for the funny side messages and comments. I really do hope more people check out Nashville Adventures.

I am almost done with Change of Plans by Sarah Dessen, and it is great. So much better than her last release. I am forever a fan. She can truly do no wrong.

These were some additional favorites from the week:

As I prepare to do some Nashville barn intermediates with Tracy Anderson, I loved this joint interview with her and her mom.

These interviews were insightful and hilarious:

One of Theo’s best and funniest interviews EVER.
Two Louisiana gentlemen.

Freedom is responsibility with a sexier name.” Seth Godin

Public virtue cannot exist in a nation without private virtue, and public virtue is the only foundation of republics.” John Adams

But one of America’s most underrated freedoms isn’t the freedom to succeed, it’s the freedom to fail.” Mary Holland Nader

Only a virtuous people are capable of freedom. As nations become corrupt and vicious, they have more need of masters.” Benjamin Franklin

Repotting means accepting that the way is forward, not back. It means realizing that we won’t again fit into our old shells. But that’s not failure. That’s living.” Heather Cochran

Via Kenzie Burke.

“To love well, women must unlearn the belief that suffering is proof of devotion.” Bell Hooks

“I didn’t talk badly about you.

I talked about what you did to me.

If that makes you look bad, that’s between you and your behavior.

Because telling the truth about my experience isn’t bitterness. It’s clarity. And I’m not responsible for protecting someone’s image when they had no problem damaging my peace.

Sometimes the truth only sounds harsh because someone benefited from the silence.” Miley Cyrus

Via Kenzie Burke.

Song of the week (in honor of the great Bonnie Tyler):

It’s the song we all like to belt out in the car when driving alone on country roads. Just me?

A Golden Girl Who Turned Blue

These ladies helped me get some sleep in the Music City.

By: Gabriela Yareliz

When I got to the hotel after our walking tour, I had my work cut out for me. My navy linen dress had melted onto me. My chest and arms were blue (thank you, Banana Republic).

I started with makeup remover wipes, moved onto a wet towel and then, showered.

My evenings in the hotel consisted of four things:

Working. I was busting out contracts like a machine off of a weak hotspot (but bless the hotspot because my laptop refused to connect to the hotel wifi). Life is better in the south. If you are connected to wifi, you are not living.

Working out. I would go to the gym on the third floor. Usually, there was like three of us in there. I was the only woman I saw walk in there. I am someone who works out at home. The last time I was in a gym was in high school during my weight lifting class. I wandered around examining the machines with intrigue. One guy was on a treadmill and the other one was holding dumbbells but hypnotized by the World Cup game. Every time I would go down there, he was holding his dumbbells and staring up at the tv, not moving. He does realize not moving doesn’t count as a workout, I wondered to myself. I eventually mastered the stair master and sweat my heart out down there. I was able to lift weights. Usually, when I would go to the rack, the guy holding the dumbbells would snap out of it and leave to watch tv from his room, I can only assume.

Calls with my husband. I hated being away from my husband at this conference. What was worse was it was impossible to FaceTime or have a non-staticky call. My signal was terrible; the wifi was pathetic. I missed him terribly, and my frustration grew as the calls would go in and out.

Golden Girls. After a shower that would wash away the eternal sweat sticking to my skin (and sometimes clothing dye), I would raise the thermostat and turn on Hallmark where they would play Golden Girls. (Side note: Is it just me or do hotel showers always have weird water temperatures?) Anyway, I would let Blanche, Rose, Dorothy and Sophia put me to sleep eventually as they overpowered the screaming bachelorette parties in the streets below.

Soon, though, it was time to go home.

The Magic of Nashville

Right on Broadway!

By: Gabriela Yareliz

Nashville is a place of grit, transformation and generosity.

One of the highlights of my trip was going on a Nashville Adventures walking tour. After all the delays and inconveniences in getting to the city, this time learning from our tour guide Paul Whitten was the highlight of the trip. Do yourself a favor and book a tour with them if you are in town.

It was like 100F, but we all had a blast. He planned considerate AC and water stops for us, and more than that, his passion for his city had us engaged the whole way through.

Some of the things I learned are below (and this is from memory— so apologies for any inaccuracies. The point is you should take the tour yourself and learn from Paul!).

Smashville!

Sports give cities their renaissance and sparkle. Bringing football and an NHL team (the “Preds”) changed and revitalized the city in the early 2000s. I paid a lot of attention to the arena as the little hockey fan that I am.

The Ryman was a church. The requirements for performing there shaped Country music forever. The alley between The Ryman and Tootsies is historic. (Love the back doors to the bars).

Tootsies from the back door.

Resilience is the key to birth in Nashville. There was a young man who bombed his audition in The Ryman and was told to go paint houses or something like that. He took that criticism and let it fuel him. Ultimately, the world knew his name; he did not give up. His name was Elvis.

Nudie’s!

Nudie’s doesn’t have nude women— it honors an immigrant (Jewish/USSR) tailor by the name of Nudie who hustled hard. He started by making suits for those who wanted to perform at The Ryman and couldn’t afford an alternative for a suit. When folks were tired of looking the same, he started bedazzling. He created a fashion movement that would permeate country music and rock and roll. If I am not mistaken, I believe I heard one of Elvis’ jackets is on display at Nudie’s.

On Church Street.

Maxwell Coffee has a dark history. The Maxwell Hotel was known for hosting many KKK get togethers. As the civil rights movement went national, the Maxwell Hotel in Nashville burned down. History holds ironic moments.

The Woolworth Theater still has the sit-in counters. It was magical to see this. They have an incredible gallery with civil rights images not seen by the public. The lunch counter tiles line the walls, and the rails are the originals. Go touch a railing that a civil rights leaders gripped on the path to equality.

As I walked down Broadway, it clicked for me that it’s a gesture of generosity, all these honky tonks. You have these super famous country music stars creating platforms for the next generation of country artists. They set up these stages and schedules so musicians can do what they love and be heard and known. These artists have reached the pinnacle of success, and Broadway is a set of blocks where they turn around and extend their hand to the next generation of music. “Let me help you,” it whispers as you walk past the open windows framing band after band.

Music is a tool of resilience. Sports is an education in resilience. This city showcases both in the most fun way, and this is part of what makes Nashville magic.

From a window on Broadway.

Calming Hunger at the Redneck Riviera

Music and screaming always emanates from these party vehicles.

By: Gabriela Yareliz

I felt like I had wandered a desert on an empty stomach.

I am being dramatic, but the heat was intense (like where the air looks squiggly). I felt alone on the street aside from the occasional screaming bachelorette party on the bike bus contraptions. I knew that a few miles from there, Tracy Anderson was sweating in a barn for hours with her Vitality Week attendees. (This knowledge gave me courage).

Everything I had passed was closed or had a menu of pulled pork and beer. Tough luck for someone who doesn’t drink or eat meat.

That evening, I found a diner. I figured they would have an expansive menu with all-day breakfast. I was wrong. Everything was like a bar menu. Meat everywhere. I found a salad I could eat. Arugula with watermelon. I told them to hold the feta.

When it arrived, it was a literal bowl of arugula with four small chunks of watermelon. I cut the four small pieces into smaller pieces; trying to make confetti out of stinginess. Fifteen dollars for a literal plain bowl of arugula was insane. I looked around the empty diner in suspicion. I will say that when I brought that iced water cup to my lips, water had never tasted so good. I downed it and finished a second cup. I took a third cup with me, to-go, for my wander back.

I wanted to make it to a nearby neighborhood that seemed to have more food options, but there were two obstacles in my way— a literal obstacle— railroad that looked impossible to cross on foot, and a timing obstacle— everything on the other side of those tracks was closed around 2:30-3pm.

The Starbucks in the Margaritaville hotel had nothing but coffee and no mobile ordering. No food or seasonal items. They had the standard Starbucks menu with “X’s” drawn over most of the items and a notice that said “currently unavailable.”

I remember being at an event with a law firm associate who mumbled, “I am always hungry at this conference. They never had food.” She said what we were all thinking. As she spoke, our stomachs grumbled. I started to get that numb feeling you get when you are fasting.

Miracles from the Starbucks on 10th Ave.

To not fast the entire conference, I learned to be strategic and not depend on my expensive room snacks that were NOT complimentary. I learned to run to the Starbucks on 10th Avenue. This Starbucks had mobile ordering and non-caffeine and food options. So I would get the spinach wraps when they were open. (Stock up for the apocalypse that is closing time in downtown Nashville).

Not on Broadway, but on the way there.
Miranda Lambert’s place on Broadway.
A view of the musicians from the sidewalk on Broadway.

I did wander Broadway, which is a 24/7 party. It feels like every A-list country star has a honky tonk. Jelly Roll, Miranda Lambert, Blake Shelton, Kid Rock, Bon Jovi, Jason Aldean— the bars are dark, loud, hot and gritty. Some have rooftops. The windows are often open, so most are not air conditioned and typically, there is a performer standing in front of the open windows with their backs to the sidewalk. Music spills out onto the streets from every corner. (Even the corners of the streets are cool because you can cross certain streets diagonally).

The Redneck Riviera and Rachel Hall and her band.

On my second day in Nashville, I decided to pay a visit to the great John Rich’s place— the Redneck Riviera. The walls are covered in neat patches of first responders and military from around the country. The music is loud. I grabbed a menu and went back to the bar counter (always order at the bar) and me and the bar tender were hollering at each other over the music until she got my order right. I found something I could eat— nachos and a grilled cheese. Bless.

I sat down and downed a glass of water like whiskey (I fell in love with water again, on this trip). Rachel Hall and her band were serenading us. Raw talent. She would go around the room and ask people where they were from and what country artist they liked. She never asked me, but I was ready. Ha. I munched quietly as my Apple Watch had a heart attack due to the “loud noise decibels” each time a song would start.

If you go to Nashville, go to the Redneck Riviera. It’s such a vibe and John Rich is just a stand-up guy. Who doesn’t want to support that man?

View from Yee-Haw Brewery Co.

Another place that was great was Yee-haw Brewing Co. A group of us went to watch the U.S. v Bosnia game and find food. This was probably the most proper and decent meal I ate in Nashville— fish tacos. The place is patriotic, fun and vibrant due to the sports watch parties and great Americana music blasting. This was a great find. The food tasted like heaven. And you guess it, it was chased down with an ice cold cup of water.

Yee-Haw Brewery Co. inside.

A girl in our conference said she went to a reception and told them she was gluten-free. They assured her there would be options for her, but there was nothing she could eat. You could just hear the anguish in the voices of everyone who was fasting by force.

Despite the uninteresting food selection, Nashville proved to be a fascinating place. Food and party are not the most interesting things in Nashville. Obviously, its main attraction is music, but more than that, it’s the artists, historical figures and resilient characters who built their name there that make it feel like magic.

Resilience and generosity seem to be the general vibe. (Stay tuned).

Where is the Stargazer’s Lounge?

By: Gabriela Yareliz

My eyes were scanning a long line of taxis, empty and ready to go. JFK would never. That would be too smart.

When you arrive to BNA (Nashville International Airport), you are spoiled for choice. A taxi driver signaled to me, telling me to walk to the front of the cluster (whose direction was unclear at first), and I got into the taxi with an Ethiopian driver who told me his life story. He told me he had too many kids (“One kid is enough, yeah? Tops two— like Americans”), he at first had wanted to move to California, but it was too expensive, and he asked me if I was ok with the summer heat.

I nodded and told him it was nice he had so many kids and that I was fine with the heat as a certified Floridian. (No AC, no problem). I glanced around at the car repair places we were driving past and saw the skyline of downtown from a short distance.

“Just drop me off at Music City Center,” I told him. “Which side?” he asked. I had no idea how huge this conference center was. It also made no difference to me. “Doesn’t matter; whatever is easiest for you,” I told him.

I had called the hotel from the airport and my room was not ready, so I would need to schlep my stuff around for a bit. They told me to come back at four for check-in and that the room may be ready earlier (maybe it’s just passing inspection, they told me).

I was hungry. I opened my phone to find the nearest Starbucks or Dunkin. No Dunkin. Everything else was closed. I wandered over to the hotel a half hour before check-in, hoping to finally get into my room so I could find food.

As I walked into The Westin, I passed the hotel valet teenagers talking about pants from Chattanooga and sneaking a smoke at the valet station. They looked like kids doing a summer camp job or Theo Von’s naughty cousins.

I walked up to the desk and gave them my ID, my last name, and my credit card, and at the end, they told me my room still wasn’t ready. They told me they would call me. I was annoyed. “You can leave your stuff in the front with the valet,” the girl at the desk told me.

I glanced back at the scene I had just passed. I imagined them opening my bags and putting my underwear on their heads— they seemed like the types who would. “I’ll pass on that offer. I will sit here in your lobby and do some work. Please let me know once it’s ready. It’s been a long day.”

Check-in time came and went. I called the front desk only a few feet away, and they told me my room (still) wasn’t ready. I kept busting out emails and contracts with my hotspot because my laptop wouldn’t connect to their WiFi.

Frustration mounted (both on and off the screen). I felt like the guy from the SNL Hotel Check-in sketch (except I didn’t know this sketch existed then, but it was so real at that time). I didn’t want to see the Stargazer’s Lounge— I wanted my room.

I wish I had a stargazers lounge. Ironically, I was also staying with Marriott.

Finally, more than an hour after check-in time, after delays, scarce AC while being on my period and no food, I received a call. A chipper man told me my room was ready. “Come whenever you would like,” he said. “Dude, I have been waiting. I am staring at you from the beige leather couch in your lobby,” I told him. He made eye contact and grinned. I did not return the smile. I slapped the laptop shut and put it under my arm and tossed my duffle toward the counter. (Giving zero f’s at this point). The room was not what I had been told I would get. I had two beds instead of one. I unpacked and hung my clothes. Desperate, I opened a bag of chips and a KitKat bar in the room beneath the TV that would later be charged to me at $12.33 a piece. (WTF, Marriott).

It was time to find real food. At that time, I had no idea how hard that was going to prove to be that week. Nashville will put you on a diet, if you are carless, have eating restrictions, your conference is cheap, and you are trapped downtown.

JetBlue (Sweat) Ghetto

The start of a literally bumpy ride.

By: Gabriela Yareliz

We were delayed.

“It’s getting hotter and hotter,” the pilot told us. So we would be delayed further because they couldn’t get the plane to cool with external units.

*collective sigh from the cohort of southbound travelers*

The plane had no functioning AC on the ground. The day wasn’t even sweltering. It was 75F outside, and the inside of the plane was 97F. Ironically, where we were going was much hotter. It’s like we were on planet earth and traveling to the sun. But we couldn’t get it together on earth. A dubious start.

What blew my mind was that the solution JetBlue was offering was for us to wait and board the hot plane complaint-free or they would cancel our flight. How are these the only two options? Most of us were conference bound and hoping to arrive before the open plenary.

How is getting us a functional plane not an option? I wondered. This is the state of JetBlue. Ghetto. (The flight back was a steamy one where I was seated on a hot plane, trapped with parents who had zero control over their kids or themselves— more on that later).

The state of NYC flights is wild. JFK has a new exit for certain terminals. There is zero signage where you need it. The security line is insanity. They yell at you, telling you there are three lines, but it is all a lie. The three lines merge into one in five feet. It’s the dumbest thing I have ever seen. Everyone is pissed and cutting each other as they merge.

Basically, NYC has taken the approach of complicating travel. It’s like someone asked, How can we make this harder and more unpleasant? A+ on that assignment to the asshole who succeeded.

No Ubers allowed. Lines for taxis that last for hours. A NYC-based plane and crew with no AC. The lines for Starbucks and Dunkin were three city blocks long. They closed Jamba Juice in terminal 5.

RIP Jamba Juice?

So you go hungry because you don’t have the hours required to make it through the Starbucks line, and the snacks get smaller and more pathetic in-flight. JFK Terminal 5 hack— the new Eataly mini-mart. It’s the size of a corner with self-checkout. They have egg salad sandwiches and other little snacks for the hungry.

My precious egg salad sandwich. One of my last full meals because Nashville is not pescatarian-friendly.

Traveling out of NYC (or to NYC, for that matter) is not for the weak.

Just as we thought we were taking off, the flight attendant tells us we were rerouted to another runway, and we are #24 to take off. On a hot plane. He reminded us to “not complain” and cooperate or they could easily cancel the flight.

Also, what does it mean to not cooperate? We are strapped captives in this capsule. Were they telling us not to fight each other? To not fight them? (At that point, we all would have fought them). Honestly, I kind of understand why people lose it on planes. I bet we miss context in these stories that hit the news. Were they sitting on the tarmac sweating for hours? That’ll do it. We lose all civility because the airlines lost it first. Passengers suffocating on incompetence (and the lack of moving air).

I turned on St. Denis Medical in the background, opened my Kindle and said my prayers while we bopped over clouds and experienced insane turbulence. The pilot was like, “There are no flights making a path for us in this direction— we keep running into these systems, and it’s going to be bumpy.” Meanwhile, we are all gripping for dear life. It was basically the SNL Newark sketch.

The flight crews’ whole conclusion was always, “Don’t complain.” Meanwhile, it’s like, Why can’t you get it together, JetBlue?

I made it, though. I made it and landed in the South. And if we thought it was hot, we went out of the frying pan and into the fire.

I walked out of the tunnel and through a new terminal. A man dutifully swiped his badge, opened the auto doors. Swiped again. Closed the doors. A bus pulled up ten seconds later, and the man swiped again, opening the doors. It was an absurd routine that I observed. Closing the doors for five seconds was unnecessary. But one thing the South has down that doesn’t exist in NYC is order. I was going to give him that.

The doors opened, and I scurried to a bus shuttle. Welcome to Nashville.