Thoughts on Service

By: Gabriela Yareliz

Yesterday, we honored our veterans. At brunch, I saw many with their symbols of service— hats, tags, jackets, walking canes. All the things. The New York Rangers v Calgary Flames game had a solemn moment of respect for American and Canadian Veterans and service members at the start of the match. It was so respectful I felt like I hadn’t seen something that emotive in a while.

While at brunch, I ordered the red, white and blue pancakes (which was made up of pancakes, topped with strawberries, blueberries and whip). Apparently that plus my attire (my Tunnel to Towers t-shirt and American flag sweater) had our server thinking I had served. I cleared that up. But throughout the day, I thought about service.

The most service-oriented people I know— the ones who truly serve their clients, companies, communities, etc., they all had people in close proximity who also served. My husband is one of the most serving people, and his dad served in the military (and he was just the loveliest man, truly). My parents are service-oriented people, and I grew up in a service-oriented household. My father served in the military, and I know his grandfather was a great influence in his life. A hard-working man. My mother is one of the most service-oriented people I know. She will like self-sacrifice to her own detriment. She grew up with a grandmother who served her community with such an open heart, fed every mouth that came to her door, and her uncles and father served in the military. My grandmother worked in government throughout her career and had a public service role as well.

I grew up in environments where we spent hours in hospitals with people. We spent time getting people groceries and going to their houses in the middle of the night if they needed it. My dad not only served in the military but our family served in ministry at the church. Service has always been a cornerstone.

The older I get, the more solidified the belief becomes that we are wired for service. Nothing brings us the joy service brings us. Nothing transforms us the way sacrificial giving does. Nothing can replace it. It literally feeds the soul. Being around service inspires service in us and others. Seeing the chain of service reminds us what a responsibility we have to show younger generations what service looks like and the benefit that can be drawn from love as action.

I recently heard that studies show that the happier, less anxious people are service-oriented. They think outside of themselves. That is no surprise.

How can we serve more? How do we call others into a service mindset with us? What does it look like to serve from a place of unconditional love? Veterans Day reminds us that the world needs more of that sacrificial giving love. That this type of service is the highest of all honors. We are all called to it. No exceptions.

New York Tuesday Morning

By: Gabriela Yareliz

I am on the train listening to Brooke and Connor’s podcast. I am excited to see DWTS and how the last episode before the semifinals plays out.

The sky is bright, visibility is clear, and I see the skyline as I approach the city. The NY Rangers played the Oilers (again) last night. And lost (again). I slept through it, and thankfully, got an excellent sleep score. Rempe was missing from the ice. It annoyed me. The Rangers need to let him play or let him find a team that will let him play. I looked at McDavid, and realized he looks like Dr. Sam from New Girl.

Dr. Sam.

None of us know how to dress. Some people have hoodies, some have long coats and scarves. I am in a blazer. A woman who was sitting on an empty bench ran across the car to come sit on my crowded bench. Not sure what her deal is. Just saw an Asian man with lipstick.

I saw something about a Nor’easter in the news yesterday. I went down some rabbit holes in the news and that stuff is just not made for consumption. I felt toxic afterward.

This piece from Substack was so interesting:

I Reversed 3 Years of Autoimmune Diseases by Being A Bitch and Science Supports It: Gabor Mate said it best and for some reason we still aren’t listening…

This interview gave me some mixed feelings. Means discusses what we all know— that lobbyists and special interest money have the people who should be representing our interests in a chokehold. I also felt he excused people who should be held accountable. But leaving it here in case you want to listen for yourself:

Started the morning with Ms. Amal Clooney discussing AI bridging the justice gap.

A happy Tuesday morning to you!

A Creative Power

“Man is buffeted by circumstances so long as he believes himself to be the creature of outside conditions, but when he realizes that he is a creative power, and that he may command the hidden soil and seeds of his being out of which circumstances grow, he then becomes the rightful master of himself.” James Allen, As a Man Thinketh

Love Built This

Below is one of the most profound messages on generosity and the role of giving within the church. Grace never requires less than the law, and gratitude will always trigger giving. This was a powerful reminder in this season of giving.

This Week’s Favorites 11.07.26

By: Gabriela Yareliz

It has been a week. This week, I literally had to calculate my age on a calculator because I couldn’t remember how old I was and had tacked on like three years. (The sudden panic, guys…)

It was a special week in that I got to see Michelle Branch. The Beacon Theatre is beautiful. When they shut those lights off though, people are looking for their seats with flashlights like they are in some Indiana Jones movie. Acoustics aren’t great. Mostly the music is amplified. If you don’t know the lyrics to a song, you can’t understand a word through the muffling. We sang along and clapped. A unique night of nostalgia that ended in torrential downpours.

Always a fan of this woman.

I saw Chiara Ferragni on IG this week after not seeing her in ages. She looks so well and happy. I wish her all the happiness. It was sad hearing about how her husband cheated on her throughout their marriage and almost left her at the altar (he would have done her a favor). All the things. When you hear stuff like this, your heart just breaks. May she and any woman who has endured such cruelty find all the happiness in the world.

Chiara has found joy, and for that, we rejoice.

November is flying by. On Modern Witnesses, our Seven Days of Gratitude (gratitude challenge) are approaching and start on 11/19. I am done with week one of Sustain on Ladder. Trying to up my iron and fiber intake has been a struggle (still). My stomach gets so weird and bubbly. Not a fan of the feeling but trying to be compliant (for health’s sake). I feel like an air balloon…

This podcast episode on fiber was so good and stressed the importance of it:

I finished Re-Regulated by Anna Runkle, this week. It was good. Reaching my 50th book of the year. If there is anything I have learned from many books on trauma, it’s that writing things down is medicine for the soul. Journaling can literally heal you. Not an exaggeration.

The sun is out, which is surprising. Everyone expected a cozy, rainy weekend. We’ll take it. The weather is so weird. Almost 80F in November. Today, it at least feels like autumn.

I did some cleaning yesterday that gave my soul a degree of satisfaction (yes, that kind of cleaning). And today, we enter into true rest. Twinkle lights are on, and Christmas issues of magazines are arriving. I still have quite a bit of Christmas shopping to do! Are you ahead or behind schedule?

In the midst of my busy week, these are the things that caught my attention:

“So much of what keeps us small is loyalty to an old story.” Wilde Paper, Authenticity Day 2

“You’ve got big, pretty visions of what success looks like, but I have to be honest: sometimes success is as simple as not giving up.” Arnold Schwarzenegger

Croissant lamps spotted on Rocky’s Substack.
Too cute!

This week’s song:

Michelle Branch Day

Her hair had me in a chokehold.

By: Gabriela Yareliz

It’s Michelle Branch Day.

I have been thinking about this day since she announced her tour.

If you told me when I was ten that I was going to see this woman, I would have passed out.

When you are a kid and you play pretend, you don’t always get to be who you want to be. Sometimes, you do. It all depends on who you play with and what category. Kids are weird. They have imagination for some things and not for others. If we played Spice Girls, it was always reasoned that I couldn’t play the blonde Baby Spice. I had to be Scary Spice (because I was the closest thing to black). You know, elementary school reasoning. You had to stay in your lane. Now, this didn’t mean I didn’t play characters I liked. I sure did. If we played American Girl, I could be Addy or Samantha (as my bangs gave me striking resemblance; plus I had the doll). If we were Powerpuff Girls, I was Buttercup (also my fav). If we were Charlie’s Angels, most girls wanted to be Lucy Liu, but that worked out because Cameron Diaz’s character was my favorite. She was goofy, fit and light-hearted. I also played Drew Barrymore’s character more times than I can count. (I always did like the edgy characters).

Michelle Branch was a favorite for me to imitate.

Mind you, we were between the ages of 8 and 11– so imagination was in full swing. When it came to musicians, the very popular Britney Spears and Jessica Simpson were off the table— so I often picked edgier picks. Ones people were less likely to pick: Selena (Quintanilla), Shakira (just turned blonde), Gwen Stefani (with the braces), Pink, Christina Aguilera (dirrty era), Vanessa Carlton and yes, Michelle Branch. Michelle was a favorite. Her music is like Journey’s music. It makes you fly high. If only you knew how many times I stood in the middle of an empty small church school activity room that looked like an empty racket ball room (or mental hospital lol) because of its square dimensions and plain nature, strumming an invisible guitar.

Xtina’s dirrty era in the early 2000s.

We would stay in that room practicing tumbles and coordinated step and dance routines to Jaci Velasquez songs for church talent shows and then pivot to the latest artists (I mean Christina Aguilera’s “Lady Marmalade” was all the rage then, and we sure as hell weren’t singing that at the church camp talent show).

Michelle Branch on tour now (via her IG).

When I think of Michelle Branch, it warms my tiny child heart. First, representation matters, and listen, I am not Asian. But growing up where so many in pop culture were white and blonde— the Michelle Branch, Shakiras and Anne Hathaways of the world gave some of us a character. Someone unique to aspire to be like. (Don’t even get me started on Princess Diaries. It was life-changing).

Via Michelle Branch’s IG.

What I loved the most about Michelle was her power. Her ballads often have passionate choruses that you just have to belt. She is confrontational (we all collectively scream, “Are you happy now?”)

She walked so Avril could run. (Also have forever loved Avril).

These women defined Y2K for us millennial women. The early 2000s started with pop-rock, heavy eyeliner, mid-length layers and a guitar strap on your shoulder. We were reminded of this by Julia Stiles, recently. Before Paris and Nicole took us on a ride, we were screaming into a mic about Sk8er Bois, because that was euphoria.

Circle back to now. Michelle Branch has three kids. She vanished for a bit. I love that women are becoming mothers and then return with power for a new chapter that, honestly, the world needed. We needed this. And not just my ten-year-old self. I needed this now.

Just as the VS Angels showed us powerful women and mothers returning for a new (and powerful) chapter, this is part of the movement. Hilary Duff’s tour, Michelle Branch returning— it’s all a message that screams— your best is still ahead of you. You can pivot, you can mother, you can take a break, you can grow, you can mature— you can also still love what shaped your past.

Michelle Branch returned into my view a few years back when I realized one of my favorite writers Kelly Oxford is best friends with her. They would often post outings together. I was like, Omg!! Michelle!!

Ironic that a favorite writer would be such a close friend of Michelle’s. Or not. Sort of makes sense. All these webs of connections. When you click into a frequency, you just click.

So here we are. Thanks for coming down my brain dump of memory lane. For revisiting the characters I’ve played. It’s not every day you meet a person you pretended to be. Ha. I am ready to see Michelle. I have been ready since 2001. Two thousand freakin one. We are all grown now. Am I wearing heavy eyeliner? Damn right, I am. Am I going to sing “Everywhere” at the top of my lungs? Damn straight. Joy is going to be everywhere tonight…

Happy Michelle Branch Day to all who celebrate.

Planning for 2027

By: Gabriela Yareliz

Sixty days. It was everywhere this weekend. Something about 60 days left until 2027.

This seems to be the recent theme across platforms— winter arc vibes. ❄️

I leave you with this fun and smart prepare-for-the-new-year video. It’s time to get practical and dreamy. Time to sketch out our hopes.

Yesterday, on a teaching call, my coach Dr. Edie was telling us we are so good at seeing needs of others and the things we need to do— but how quick are we to see delights and gladness? How are we planning for joy?

“What are your threads of delight?” Dr. Edie asked.

So that’s the assignment— we should look at what needs planning, improvement, and structure, but also, we need to take time and plan for joy and delights.

What’s on your list?