“So plant your own gardens and decorate your own soul, instead of waiting for someone to bring you flowers.” Jorge Luis Borges

By: Gabriela Yareliz

I heard recently that when people dislike you, it serves as a reminder that if everyone liked you, you would be more reliant on the opinions of others.

It’s a human tendency to want to control and belong. We think we find safety in that. In fact, many biological propensities and desires stem from the need for belonging.

I recently read The Let Them Theory and have yet to internalize it on some days. If you haven’t read it yet, The Chalkboard Mag released a great piece called:

5 Things We Learned From The Let Them Theory By Mel Robbins—And Why It’ll Change Your Life

Leaving it here for you, in case you need a reminder.

In short— “Let people behave however they’re going to behave, and instead of taking it personally or trying to control the outcome, focus on yourself.”

Plant your own gardens! Decorate your own soul.