By: Gabriela Yareliz
My coach says that if we don’t learn a lesson, it repeats itself in our lives until we do.
I am not sure if I believe that. I think life just happens. I do think that we can create the same patterns and reactions if we aren’t intentional, but even when we grow and adjust our reaction, that doesn’t mean we don’t face the same circumstance again. Our lives are interwoven to feel the shockwaves of the lives around us.
So then, it brings us to the question— is a lesson a circumstance? And the second question is— does it matter? Ultimately, what makes the difference between pattern or no pattern, even in the face of the same circumstance, is our power to choose and how we deal with the cards being dealt.
I believe there are common “lessons” that present themselves to us all, and others that are more tailor-made for our own little souls and the journey we need to embark on. And then, there is life, in all of its random glory.
As we begin new chapters, it’s important to ask ourselves what patterns we keep repeating, and when we want to step off the familiar carousel of choices.
We must ask ourselves what we don’t mind repeating and what we never want to see or experience again, and commit to it.
Agency isn’t something that is given or received. We don’t have to wait for it. Agency is something we inherently have. We shouldn’t forget it. It’s necessary for a smooth ride.
GABRIELA YARELIZ 