The Violence of Growth

“Growth is violent like that. It doesn’t happen without endings. Without death. Without the parts of you that are clinging to control finally being ripped away.

So I’ll ask you: how many times have you already died? And maybe… the next chapter of your growth is waiting for you on the other side of the version of you that doesn’t want to die.” Aggie Lal

By: Gabriela Yareliz

This made me reflect. Growth, we often say, is painful. But Aggie is right— there is a type of growth that is violent. It shatters you into powder. It’s like a chemical reaction that is irreversible. It is meant to make you mourn an old version of you.

If you are going through something that feels like death, remember that there is another chapter on the other side of it. Growth— it isn’t always beautiful, and it is in no way neat, but growth equals life. Like a child finding its way into puberty.

So when you feel the pain or the death of an old you, remember that the fact that you can feel that deep in your bones means you are very much alive.

In a world where so many are numb— grow, live, be born again. ✨

Published by Gabriela Yareliz

Gabriela is a writer, editor and attorney. She loves the art of storytelling, and she is based in NYC.

2 thoughts on “The Violence of Growth

  1. You’re right! its the end of a character and phase; then the body keep growing (naturally, all the cellules are replaced every 7 years). Then you feel the zest to be alive.
    While others, are anchored to their vices ( their responsability) and decided not to grow ( mentally, conductuallly, etc)…rotten.
    Which way to choose? Intelligent Intuition will lead you to the iniciative and industriosity.IN4.

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