“A good marriage, if we cherish each other as God cherished Jerusalem (see Ezekiel 16), is to proclaim to our spouses, ‘Live!’ We see them in their very weaknesses, and even ocasional ugliness, breathe life into each other and refresh each other. Dormant parts of our spouses’ personalities and giftings can come alive under our support and encouragement.
Too many marriages instead breathe death– death to self-esteem, death to peace, death to joy. Our disappointment leads us to attack each other for what we are not, while cherishing grows the best parts of our giftings into their full power and adornment. A good marriage, a cherishing marriage, says to each partner, ‘Live! Come alive! Be all that God made you to be!'” Cherish, pg 94 (A Bride Made Beautiful) , by Gary Thomas
GABRIELA YARELIZ 
Brave words, those. Because in telling someone to live and come alive, you have to hope that their heart’s desire is good and pure and strong–and also meshes with your life together.
Freedom and love carry their risks.