By: Gabriela Yareliz
- If you have had significant trauma, guard against triggering things (like documentaries on traumatic and dark events). You should be in the process of rewiring your brain to feel safe and normalize joy and peace rather than chaos and darkness (which you are used to).
- Many people go years feeling something is wrong or off, and they never ask or confront out of fear. Never be a person who is afraid to ask or discuss rational conclusions. Seeking clarity is never a bad thing.
- Not every difficult conversation gets a resolution. Sometimes, they are moments of expression and clarity and building blocks for the future, if both relationally allow it.
- Your sadness, moodiness, hopelessness isn’t part of your personality. It’s how you have wired your brain based on thought patterns, habit and frequency of occurrence. You can rewire your brain and personality and practice feeling a certain way until it becomes your new normal. You can change at any time.
- Acknowledge hard things. It’s a fine line between minimizing something and disregarding yourself and martyrdom. Don’t be a martyr. Acknowledge what is hard.
- Observe, don’t absorb.
- People are responsible for themselves. You are responsible for you.
GABRIELA YARELIZ 