Reflections Before Bedtime #19

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By: Gabriela Yareliz

Sometimes in life, we make the mistake of thinking that people will have to come around to respecting and accepting us and our ways of thought. It doesn’t always happen, obviously. We know this, but it stings a little when it unfolds in real life. People owe us nothing, and best of all, we owe them nothing, either.

Not all people are meant to stay in our lives. Some people should fade, and fade into the background quickly. Others come closer until we can almost hear their heartbeat pounding in our heads.

In life, we sometimes reach a point where people’s tentacles are wrapped tightly around our arms. Someone wise once said that life is movement. There comes a time where we must pry off the things and people holding us captive. We often don’t even know how we got there in the first place.

We often forget that what people think and say is a reflection of who they are, not a reflection of us and who we are.

It is time to remember: too many people around you can suffocate you; if you are being genuine, it doesn’t matter what others think about that; only you can lock yourself in the prison of other’s opinions and expectations; and respect is to be given, but like with much that is given, you should give expecting nothing in return.

The only opinion that matters is God’s opinion. People don’t own you. You decide where you belong and what matters.

God gives us freedom, and we shouldn’t give that to anyone. Be free. Live. Move.

The ones who aren’t around you for the right reasons, the ones who want you to be who they want you to be will fade, and the ones that matter and respect you will stay.

I am free, free like the sea… and despite what others may think, sometimes, I am not right, I am not wrong, I am me.

To let go is an interesting thing. For me, it is kind of like when you let go of something tiny in the ocean. It will probably never make its way back to me. Sometimes, it is necessary for tiny things to get engulfed in a vast and majestic sea.

Tonight, I am sending out my own message in a bottle.

Friday Glee: April 17, 2015

“He will provide the way and the means, such as you could never have imagined. Leave it all to Him, let go of yourself, lose yourself on the Cross, and you will find yourself entirely.” Saint Catherine of Siena

By: Gabriela Yareliz

It was one of those days. I slept through all of my alarms (somehow). It has been quite the week. I hope that you find some peace this weekend. Keep your head up; keep believing.

“How completely satisfying to turn from our limitations to a God who has none.” A.W. Tozer

“God is always doing 10,000 things in your life, and you may be aware of three of them.” John Piper

[Haven, Oakland’s Jack London Square | Honesty YUM]

“The great thing to remember is that, though our feelings come and go, His love for us does not. It is not wearied by our sins, or our indifference; and, therefore, it is quite relentless in its determination that we shall be cured of those sins, at whatever cost to us, at whatever cost to Him.” C.S. Lewis

“I don’t want my life to be explainable without the Holy Spirit. I want people to look at my life and know that I couldn’t be doing this by my own power. I want to live in such a way that I am desperate for Him to come through. That if He doesn’t come through, I am screwed. (I probably shouldn’t write that word here, but it’s how I truly feel about this.)” Francis Chan, Forgotten God

“We can’t heal others, but we can be committed to their healing. We can’t make others whole, but we can be committed to their wholeness.” Jackie Johns

“God is always present. even when it seems like all is silent and lonesome, He is present; loving you like only He can.” T.B. LaBerge // Go Now
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Monday Inspiration: April 13, 2015

By: Gabriela Yareliz

Last week felt a bit like struggling for air. This week won’t be that way. This week will be filled with air, lots of good, clean air. Helloooo Monday.

I hope that this week you feel safe and at peace. No sinking this week. And if the struggle hits, let’s look up and float.

“Remind me gently, Oh Lord, what it means to have a heart that breaks like Yours; but if it cannot be gentle, I beg that You walk with me in the pain of Your answer, so that I may know not only Your goodness, but also Your face.” T.B. LaBerge // Thy Will Be Done

“I wish we could
see ourselves
with God’s eyes.
Flawed,
but still worthy of loving.” anne. n | [01/03/2015 – 12:15 a.m.]

“Why should your heart not dance?” C.S. Lewis, Till We Have Faces 

“Do the best you can until you know better. Then when you know better, do better.” Maya Angelou

“It’s a beautiful thing to have lungs that allow you to breathe air and legs that allow you to climb mountains, and it’s a shame that sometimes we don’t realize that that’s enough.” Unknown

“You still have a lot of time to make yourself be what you want.”

– S.E. Hinton, The Outsiders

“Find someone that makes your heart race, but not with anxiety.”

[Patricia Manfield]

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Tough Stuff

       “Life is tough, my darling, but so are you.” S.L.

By: Gabriela Yareliz

Life is not a car you can just steer in whichever way you want. It’s more like a canoe in a river with a mind of its own. I think that we often put a lot of pressure on ourselves to make things go the way we think they should go.

Life doesn’t quite work out like that. Ask anyone who has reached “success”… Often, life takes us down unexpected roads, which take us to where we need to be.

The key? An open mind, room for failure that ends up not being failure, a desire for growth, creativity, a vision and some faith that will carry you through the storms of uncertainty.

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“10 million years into eternity, we’ll still be praising God for the very mercies we are now tempted to doubt.” Paul David Tripp

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Bollywood Icons

By: Gabriela Yareliz

I love celebrating women of all cultures. I have my favorite French women, my favorite Spanish women, favorite Latinas, and high-powered women I admire… Now, it’s time to celebrate the women who inspire me in the Bollywood industry.

Sonam Kapoor: Hilariously outspoken, incredibly stylish, and an advocate for health and true beauty. Protagonist of one of my favorite films, Aisha.

Anushka Sharma: Down-to-earth, bubbly, and one of the most expressive faces in Bollywood.

Jacqueline Fernandez: Anytime I need motivation to juice or work out, this woman inspires me to stay on track.

Katrina Kaif: Probably one of the fittest dancers in Bollywood. We all want to dance like her…and she learned Hindi to enter the industry. Where there is a will, there is a way… She performed as one of my favorite Bollywood characters, Dimple Dixit.

Kareena Kapoor: She’s a diva. But always a favorite.

Nargis Fakhri: From Queens, NY. An outsider who made her way to the inside.

Priyanka Chopra: Actress, singer, and dream chaser. She also has some of the best hair in Bollywood.

Dia Mirza: A spokesperson for natural beauty and health.

Deepika Padukone: The gorgeous girl-next-door.

Aishwarya Rai: The Queen of Bollywood. The biggest stunner on the Cannes Film Festival red carpet. An international face of L’Oreal.

Namrata Soni: One of the best makeup artists in the world. Hands-down. She makes all the women on this list look extra beautiful.

How to Work the Kitchen

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Belongs to Gabriela Yareliz

By: Gabriela Yareliz

I have been making this list for months now. I have done some really dumb things in the kitchen, so I thought I would share. If you are moving out on your own soon, if you want to start cooking, or if you just need a good laugh–enjoy the following words of wisdom.

Advice from my own strange kitchen mistakes and adventures:

1] Always be fully clothed, especially if dealing with oil, frying pans or boiling water.

2] Never try to grab a hardboiled egg out of the hot water with your bare hands.

3] Before you use the toaster oven, make sure there is nothing plastic around it. That includes Tupperware and water bottles.

4] Sniff your gas stove before bed time. A bit paranoid? Maybe.

5] Don’t peel things with long nails.

6] Clean flaky residues around the fire of the stove top because it will catch fire.

7] Don’t cut potatoes and store them in the fridge. They turn black and shrivel. Apparently, they should be stored in a dark place, covered with water and used within hours.

8] Always make sure the toaster oven is on when you want it to be on, because it will tick deceivingly even if it’s not plugged in. Then, you’ll go check your food, and it’ll be cold. Been there, done that.

9] Don’t wipe your eyes with onion juice soaked hands.

10] Wipe jar edges so sauce won’t oxidize (that is why you also shouldn’t leave sauce in the can)…

11] If you need a “toaster oven” safe plate/ container and what you are heating up is frozen and too big to fit in a small bowl and too hard to break (because it’s frozen), DO NOT put it on a normal glass or ceramic plate with the toaster oven door open partially (because it doesn’t fit). The plate shatters.

Advice from my mother and brothers:

12] If you are storing salad in a container, always put a napkin over the salad leaves because it absorbs condensation and blocks light. The leaves stay nicer, longer.

13] Keep handles turned in and not sticking out from the stove top.

14] Wash veggies before sticking them in the fridge (if that is where you put them).

Advice from Abuela (my grandmother):

15] Don’t pack anything directly in foil, put paper between the food and foil because foil sticks.

16] Spice up your rice by putting nuts in it (given that you and your guests are not allergic to them).

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Belongs to Gabriela Yareliz

Monday Inspiration: April 6, 2015

By: Gabriela Yareliz

Hello!

I hope you are all having an exciting week, thus far. I am happy to share, I finished my 90-day Bible Challenge (in 75 days). It was so exciting and beautiful. Easter weekend was a real blessing and a fun couple of days. It was a reminder of God’s love, mercy and goodness. The weather finally started to feel like spring this past weekend. Hallelujah! Despite the amazing weather, the work continues, so we must continue working hard. It’s weird and exciting having work and random pre-graduation requirements.

Exciting times are ahead. God’s timing is perfect, and His plans are good.

Let’s walk through this life inspired, together.

“I believe still today what I have always believed: that God is good, that the world He made is extraordinary, and that His comfort is like nothing else on earth.” Shauna Niequist

“When I understand that everything happening to me is to make me more Christlike, it resolves a great deal of anxiety.” A.W. Tozer

It took years to know,
that there will always be fog,
but it always lifts.

Daily Haiku on Love by Tyler Knott Gregson

“Porque detras de cada persona se esconde otra. Quizas mas bella, quizas mas nueva, quizas tuya.” Tres Metros Sobre el Cielo, Federico Moccia

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Viviendo, Parte II [Living, Part II]: Adamari Lopez

[Tagline quote says: “My daughter is a miracle from God.”]

By: Gabriela Yareliz

On June 12, 2013, I wrote Viviendo [living]: Adamari Lopez, based on my reading of Adamari Lopez’s autobiography. She is an incredible Puerto Rican actress and writer who has overcome many obstacles. She was diagnosed with breast cancer, and she went through a mastectomy and chemo. She saved some of her eggs (fertilized with her then-husband’s sperm) before she started chemo, only to later go through a divorce in which her husband left her. That was the day Luis Fonsi (her ex-husband) lost many fans. She was devastated because her biggest dream was to have children, but she wasn’t about to have a child with her ex-husband and the eggs she had saved.

After this loss, she went on to dance in Mira Quien Baila (the Hispanic version of Dancing with the Stars). She ended up winning the competition and donating money to the search for a cure cause (for cancer). She didn’t only win the competition, but she stole the heart of her professional dance partner, Toni Costa. Both of her parents passed away (another difficulty to add to the mix), and this new romance with the Spanish dancer made some of us feel better, and it filled us with hope that she would find joy in her life again after the many tragedies she endured.

After doctors told her that it was impossible for her to have children, and that the fertilized eggs (by her ex-husband) were her only chance, she announced in 2014 that she was expecting a child; the father being her new partner in life, Toni Costa (the dancer we all love).

She has been using her platform to tell others about how hard she prayed to God for this child, and the fact that miracles do exist and happen. This child is a miracle; she has overcome all the odds.

All of her fandom is delighted by the news, and her People en Español cover with Lopez holding her baby girl is a special and unique one. Because I wrote about her years ago, I had to do a follow-up post.

Expect miracles. They happen. Even when everything says impossible, God knows the desires of our heart, and He has the final say. Alaia (the baby) is a miracle. Her life shows how big God is and the things He can do for us.